It’s Musical Time in Tennessee

Hey y’all, it’s beginning to be my favorite time of year again. It’s musical time in Tennessee! I absolutely love the time near the end of every semester where musicals and shows from all over the state tend to premier. After working hard all semester, I am sure everyone is ready to get the shows on the road. Recently, I saw a poster for the LMU Players’ presentation of Godspell. All of the advertisement and excitement on campus about the upcoming show got me thinking of the shows that I have performed in in the past.
I have only been in two musicals and one madrigal in my life, but I greatly enjoyed each individual experience and felt that I learned a lot from each of them. During these performances, I learned to laugh at myself, develop character depth, come out of my shell, and cast away all inhibitions I had while on stage. Though I have not been in any shows since the fall semester of my sophomore year, I do miss the atmosphere and experience of being on stage. Read the rest of this entry

Lazy Time with Ashley

As many of you can probably speak to, college students do not typically have a ton of free time. As I have progressed through my college career, I have found myself becoming more and more involved within the community and specifically LMU. Yet, I love it! I am the type of person that relishes in having a packed planner that lays out my day-to-day schedule of classes, work in the Tagge, and sorority events. Knowing what I am supposed to do every day helps me to feel focused and driven.

On the flip side of Ashley, I am a lazy girl. Granted, my definition of lazy may not match everyone’s definition of lazy, but for me taking a few hours to have some downtime is a love/hate kind of thing. On one hand, I completely love laying around and doing whatever I please. On the other hand, my natural personality drives me to constantly be completing some kind of task. That is why, when I am typically having what I call “Lazy Time,” I am usually completing something at the same time. Here is a list of my favorite things!


Yes, I love movies! (Who doesn’t?) Specifically, I love sappy, ridiculous, cry-into-your-pint-of-ice cream-movies. Some of my favorites include: P.S. I Love You, Forrest Gump, The Time Traveler’s Wife, and Hitch. In addition to just plain old romance, I do of course love the romantic comedies, anything involving Will Smith, and I actually really enjoy musicals. Now, you may be thinking, “What is she accomplishing?” Well, finishing a movie is an accomplishment! I just devoted two hours of my life to the lives and woes of these fictional characters, and believe me, I am not a passive movie watcher. I relate to the characters on a deep level and become totally absorbed, so DON’T TALK DURING THE MOVIE!

Love him!

Love him!


Reading is another way that I spend my lazy time. Since I was a little girl, my parents struggled with the fact that I could sit for hours completely lost in a book. During the summertime I would find a spot in our field and read all day long, and my parents were always concerned that I wasn’t playing enough! Eventually, I think they realized that reading habits weren’t the worst thing a child could get into, so they encouraged it, even if they thought it was a bit abnormal. Now that I am in college, I don’t have near as much time to read for fun, so when I do get free time I read like a champ. Over Christmas break I finished almost two books from the Game of Thrones series, and now I’m on the last book that has been published. Back to the completing thing, finishing a book is such a success for me. While I am not always happy for the book to be over, I do feel a sense of accomplishment.

Story of my life...

Story of my life…


You may be thinking, “Who knits in college?” Well, my sophomore year I began knitting because I needed cheap presents to give to my family for Christmas. Being on the college girl budget, I knew it would have to be homemade presents, but I wanted to find something that would actually be useful for them. I taught myself how to knit via Youtube that September, and it took me about month to finish my first scarf, but after that I could pop out a hat in two days and a scarf in about three. Needless to say, everyone got a hat or scarf for Christmas that year! Since then, I have tried out different projects. There is so much you can do! So far all I have done is hats, scarves, and a baby blanket, but I have really enjoyed trying out new patterns and techniques. The best part about learning how to knit was that soon after I began everyone in the sorority house began to pick up either knitting or crocheting!  Even more than that, knitting taught me patience. I am not a very patient person, but when I taught myself I probably restarted the same scarf about ten times before I was satisfied. To this day, Jared still wears that scarf, despite the fact that one half is full of holes and lopsided, and the other half is pristine.

My last creation took me about two hours!

My last creation took me about two hours!

Obviously, I don’t have the most exciting hobbies in the world, but these things make up who I am. Most people see me when I am always on the go, but there is a side of me that relishes in a lazy Saturday filled with movies and knitting. These are parts of my college experience that I would never take back.

What do you do in your free time? Are you a mountain climber, Netflix-watcher, or even a knitter like me? Let me know in the comments below!

I’m Gonna Love You Through It

In my past blogs, I have done everything from map out the next five years of my life, to addressing relationship issues, to comparing myself to popular T.V. idols. Despite all of this, I have yet to share one of the biggest parts of my life with my readers, and the urge to do so has been pulling at my heart for weeks. I do have a disclaimer: I do not intend for this post to in any way be a downer, or to sound like I am whining. I would rather like to take this opportunity to share with everyone an aspect of my life of which I rarely speak, but which has recently come to the forefront of my life once again.

The year that I turned eight years old, my mom came home to my sister and me and explained that she had cancer. Being the eight-year-old that I was, I didn’t completely understand what that meant but I did understand that it wasn’t good. I now know that her cancer began in the stomach lining, and would eventually spread.  As my mom began her first round of chemo, and later her second, I grew up (as cliché as it might sound) at a much faster rate than typical children. I have attempted to communicate this in my past blogs, but here it is: I am a people pleaser; I naturally take charge during difficult situations, and I almost always assume the role of mother. Even today, I have had people call me “Mamma Kappa,” despite my attempts to bury my mothering habits. So, when I say that I grew up fast, I do not blame my mom’s illness, but I do believe that those circumstances combined with my natural personality led me to develop as I have. Read the rest of this entry

Confronting Confrontation

This past week, in the midst of midterms, I have dealt with a surprising amount of something that no one wants to talk about or engage in: confrontation. While it is in no way a fun subject, it is something that I feel we all face through our college career, whether it is with family, friends, or even professors. For me, this past week has sadly been fraught with a lot of confrontation, from all areas of my life. This time of year, everyone begins to feel the pressure of school, work, and home life. That is why I have decided to share my personal examples and ways of coping with confrontation.

Let me start out with a couple of disclaimers! First of all, while I may sound like I am just the expert on confrontation, I am in no way comfortable with it. To be honest, when I am confronting someone about a problem, my face turns red, I sweat like it is the middle of July, and I tend to get a fast heartbeat and even stutter a little bit. I am telling you this because I want you to know that no one likes confrontation, but it is necessary to maintain healthy relationships and even your own self esteem. Secondly, when I say “confrontation” I am not necessarily talking about a Facebook fight or over-the-top “drama.” I consider confrontation a mature dialogue between two adults that maintain their respect and dignity. With that in mind, let me tell you about how I deal with confrontation! Read the rest of this entry

Why I’m Not Going to Grad School (Yet)!

As a junior in college, there are certain decisions about my future that I have to begin thinking about. Not only am I thinking about these decisions, but it is apparent through class discussions that my peers are as well. The decision that has been the topic of most of this discussion is graduate school.

I learned recently in my career planning class that there are three different types of majors: those that are a direct path to a career (such as veterinary technology or pre-med), those that are sort of a guide to a career (such as psychology or biology), and also those majors that could allow you to do almost anything (such as English or History). Keeping this idea in mind, a psychology major typically leads people to earning a Master’s or PhD, because specialization is important in my particular field. I fully understand that that in order to get a high-salary job in the field psychology, I will need to continue my education after earning my Bachelor’s degree. The only problem is… I don’t want to go to graduate school (yet)! Here are my reasons why:

I want to get married:

It is no secret to my readers that I am in a long-term, serious relationship with my boyfriend Jared. We have discussed marriage very seriously, and both agree that we would like to get married sometime in the next two or three years. With this in mind, Jared will still be attending UT earning his nuclear engineering degree when we marry. I want to be able to support both of us, and in order to do that I need to get a full time job.

I don’t have the money:

Graduate school is not a cheap endeavor. Even though I have been able to attend college thus far with minimal expenses, there is just not as much scholarship and financial opportunities in graduate school. Jared and I have both agreed that it would be foolish to start out marriage (and ultimately my own financial life) accruing thousands of dollars in loans. While there a great opportunities in graduate school to receive funding for tuition (such as being a graduate assistant), I just cannot imagine working full-time, attending graduate school, and also working part-time to earn my tuition.

My school options are limited:

If y’all can recall, I am earning my Minor Certificate in Gerontology. While psychology is my major, my real passion involves working specifically with the elderly. This is why I don’t want to earn my Master’s in a general psychology degree, but rather specifically in gerontology. The catch with this decision is that there are not as many options close to home to receive my Master’s in Gerontology. In order to do so, I will either have to move to a different state, or earn my degree online. I haven’t decided which route I will take yet, but I feel that I will be in a better state to make this decision a few years from now.

So, what do I do now? It is largely agreed that not going to graduate school would not be my smartest option, but obviously I don’t plan on attending graduate school right after graduation.

Here is my tentative plan :

Ok, let me just say that I know that life doesn’t always work out according to plan, but this is what I hope will happen! First, I plan to have three internships completed by the time I graduate. I am hoping that my experience, respected reputation for LMU’s psychology program, and specialization of my minor will give me an edge in getting a job. I would like to get a job soon after graduation, and get married soon after that. Jared will finish his degree two years after I graduate. In the time between my graduation and his, I would like to work, save money for graduate school, and practice the GRE (which is like the ACT for getting into graduate school). After Jared begins working, I can then go to graduate school.

I am not saying that you should not go to graduate school!

Let me just say, I am not advising my reader’s to not attend graduate school. In fact, I would highly recommend graduate school for all college graduates. Not only will it further your career possibilities, but it will also make you a more sophisticated, educated, enriched individual. I, myself, want to attend graduate school, but in my case I have to do what is right for me, and that is waiting a few years.

Are you feeling the pressure of making graduate school decisions? Please feel free to comment or email me directly at I would love to speak with you!


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